When we think about the key ingredients to great foreplay, a good conversation definitely isn’t the first thing that springs to mind.
But the simple fact is, talking to the person you love can genuinely act as a top aphrodisiac and we don’t just mean by using a select group of four letter words.
Conversation for Appreciation
It is no secret that people who feel confident with their role in a relationship also feel less restrained by it and, as a result, self-assured people have better sex.
Waxing a good word with your nearest and dearest is a great way to make them feel appreciated as taking time to listen to their views and opinions on what’s going on in the world – be it sexual or otherwise – will let them know that you value their opinion.
While this might not seem like an obvious connection, the fact that they feel confident in this aspect of your relationship will help them feel more secure, and therefore less inhibited, about suggesting new things for you to try in the bedroom.
Conversation for Relaxation
Stress is one of the biggest libido killers around, and one of the best ways to relieve stress is to get it off your chest by talking to someone who cares.
Sex is another great way, in case you didn’t know.
But we digress. Sharing with your partner any problems that are going on in your personal life, will not only make you feel better, it will make the two of you feel closer, which is the perfect lead-up to a different kind of silver tongue service.
Conversation for Communication
Now this one sounds like a given, but according to relationships experts it’s remarkable how often couples talk to each other without actually communicating anything of any real use.
If you’ve been in a relationship for a while and you’re looking to add a new dimension to your foreplay but you’re not sure how to approach the subject, think back to the days when you first met your lover and the tactics you used to woo them. The art of seduction doesn’t exist unless you use your words, so maybe it’s time to read your dusty old playbook over again.
If you’re single, you’ve got no excuse. Get out there and hone those silky skills.