Sex toys are for everyone.
From traditional ones to newer, innovative toys, these gadgets and devices give people the opportunity to explore and get creative with their pleasure.
Many people want to use sex toys, but it can be frustrating or cause gender dysphoria when the toys you’re looking at aren’t represented by people who look like you.
Society has been pushing for more conversation and understanding of people who fall outside the gender binary or aren’t cis-gendered. Many of these conversations are being spearheaded by people in the sex industry.
This means that a market that has often been marketed towards cis-gendered people is now becoming more inclusive.
So how do you find sex toys that are gender-affirming, innovative, and exciting?
We’ve got some ideas for you.
Here’s our round-up of the best sex toys for trans-masc people.
What Does Trans-Masc Mean?
If you’re reading this, you most likely identify with or have an idea of what trans masc means.
If not, no worries – we’ve got you covered.
Trans-masc is an umbrella term for non-cis-gendered people who fall on the masculine side.
This is people who were assigned female at birth (AFAB), and are trans-masc non-binary, transgender males, or somewhere on that spectrum.
Gender is nuanced and different for everyone, so this is just a general definition, but it may vary from person to person.
Now that you’ve had a refresher on what trans-masc is, let’s get into the good stuff.
Trans-Masc Sex Toys: What to Look For
As with anyone looking for sex toys, trans-masc people will all have their individual preferences.
Trans-masc people who have undergone gender-affirming physical changes like taking testosterone or getting a phalloplasty will also have different needs.
If this is you, and you’re exploring your sexual world with new or altered equipment – how cool!
There are some incredible toys out there waiting for you to try them.
Here are some of our favorites:
Shot Pockets
Hot pocket? Shot rocket? Shot pockets!
Shot pockets are basically miniature masturbation sleeves for people with enlarged clitorises – usually thanks to testosterone therapy, or who are naturally on the larger side.
There are other smaller masturbation sleeves on the market that are geared towards trans-masc people.
What an awesome innovation!
External Vibrators
While this isn’t true for everyone, some trans-masc people may experience gender dysphoria or don’t like toys that offer penetration.
Vibrators are still an incredible option no matter what kind of anatomy you have.
There are so many kinds of external vibrators to choose from like small handheld ones, wands, and sneaky little bullet vibrators. You can even try a remote control vibrator for a surprise sex game or pleasure on the go.
External vibes can be used around the genitals, chest and nipples, thighs, anus, and more! Just make sure it’s properly sanitized if you use it around the butt, or have a designated butt toy.
Oral Sex Simulators
Oral sex simulators mimic the movement of your favorite oral maneuvers like tongue flicking and caressing, sucking, and blowing.
High-tech oral sex simulators offer a variety of different vibration patterns that can be used for intense pleasure, no matter where you are in your trans-masc journey.
Yeehaw! Strap-Ons
Strap-on dildos certainly aren’t just for trans-masc people, but they are an awesome option!
The wearer of a strap-on dildo has on a pelvic harness with a hole that neatly fits your dildo of choice.
This gives trans-masc people the experience of penetrating their partners *insert hole of choice here*.
These harnesses and dildos come in skin like colors and non-skin like colors. Either of which may be more gender affirming for you!
There’s all sorts of harnesses out there, opt for one that you’ll feel comfortable in physically and mentally. Some companies even make nifty briefs and boxers that can hold a dildo.
You can even find strap on dildos that vibrate to give the penetrator and the penetratee extra sensation.
Lube it Up
No sex toy list would be complete without this key player.
Body friendly and sex toy safe lubricant or personal moisturizer is essential for a slippery good time, no matter what toy you’re using.
Using a lube that’s designed to work with sex toys can help prolong their life and prevent bacterial growth, especially ones that are made from materials like silicone.
Lube is especially essential for people who are on testosterone therapy which can contribute to vaginal dryness.
Safety First! Condoms
You’ve got your toys, you’ve got your lube, now it’s time to think about having safer sex to prevent the spread and transmission of sexually transmitted infections.
Certain STIs can be spread through skin-to-skin contact, as well as through oral sex, and yes – sharing sex toys.
One of the best ways to prevent transmission through sex toys is by learning to properly care for and clean them, especially if you’re sharing them with someone else.
Another way is to use condoms with them!
Condoms on sex toys are a great way to prioritize your safety and sexual health when you’re sharing toys with someone, or multiple people *wink* *wink*.
Be sure to check if the lubricant on your condoms is safe to use with your sex toy. Generally, the kind of lube used on condoms is also compatible with sex toys that are made from materials like silicone, but it doesn’t hurt to double check!
Time to Experiment
Your sex life is a place for you to get creative, explore, and experiment. This is especially true if you’re a trans-masc person taking some new toys for a spin!
It might take some trial and error to find what works for you. Keep in mind that your needs might change, especially if you are doing continually gender-affirming treatments that are changing your body.
Give yourself the flexibility and space to try out new toys and sensations, whether that’s alone, or with a partner!