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What is a Happy Ending Massage? Your Guide on Giving One to Your Partner at Home

You’ve probably heard the term “happy ending” in the movies, social media, and even in magazines where people share their crazy stories from that time they went on vacation. And you’ve probably been curious what all the fuss is about. 

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Is the happy ending common for every message? Is it only reserved for men alone, or do women get it as well? Well, let’s look at what is a happy ending massage and how to give one to your partner at home. 

What Is a Happy Ending Massage?

A happy ending massage is a regular full-body massage that usually ends with a sex act like blowjob, handjob, or fingering. All genders can enjoy the massage, but it has been more prominent amongst men due to the stereotype that women need emotional connection for sex and their tendency to avoid paying for sexual favors. 

Happy ending massages are popular at massage parlors in Asia and other countries worldwide that are dense with tourists. However, just because they’re available on the menu doesn’t mean they’re legal. In the United States, happy ending massages, just like other types of sex work, are illegal. And the same goes for many other countries. 

So, if you ever decide to get a happy ending massage, be wary of the laws! Now, a great way to still get the thrill of a full-body happy ending massage without risking getting in trouble and crossing ethical lines is by getting a massage at home. 

How To Give Your Partner an Unforgettable Happy Ending Massage

Now that you know what a happy ending massage is, here is how to give your partner one right at home. It’s surely a great way to spice things up when you feel bored. And it’s also a great way to show your partner that you love and appreciate their body and care about their pleasure. 

Step 1: Prepare the Setting

You can go extra with your setting for a happy ending massage, or you can be very simple. Do what works best for you. But if you decide to go all-in, then you might want to consider dressing up and even roleplaying with your partner. 

If they have a fantasy of getting a happy ending massage at the establishment, you can set up your space to mimic the environment. You can dress up as a masseuse and create a whole scenario for the evening that’ll let you both experience the fantasy together. 

Of course, if you simply want to focus on the massage, setting the mood is more than enough. First, find a comfortable space and lay down some towels to avoid making a mess and ruining furniture or sheets. Then, ensure that nobody will interrupt, dim the lighting, light some candles and prepare to get naked. 

Step 2: Gather Your Tools

For every massage, happy ending or not, you will need massage oil. So, to avoid stress and ruining the mood, prepare your tools in advance. Get the massage oil you like. If you’re going to be using your mouth, make sure the oil is edible. A great option for that is coconut oil which you can probably find in your kitchen.

Or you might want to consider making things more interesting with a massage oil candle. Lighting one before will help set the mood and get your partner excited. And then, you can have it on hand to pour it over their body and slowly massage it into their skin. LELO’s Flickering Massage Candle has three scents to choose from for every taste. 

You might also want to consider bringing in the toys. While a happy ending can be achieved with your hands and mouth alone, adding more stimulation with a vibrator, prostate massager, or a clit massager might be fun. 

Another thing you might want to consider bringing in for a happy ending massage is things like restraints or blindfolds. If your partners enjoy surrendering control, then having their hands tied as you massage them might give them a little thrill. 

Otherwise, a massage can feel more intense with their eyes covered. This happens due to other senses heightening once the sight is taken away. If your partner is comfortable, it might be worth giving it a go.  

Step 3: Massage Everywhere Except Their Genitals

Now, when you start the massage, you’ll want to go slow. Put oil everywhere on their body and slowly put pressure as you massage their shoulders, chest, hands, and belly. You want to tease them at first, avoiding the most sensitive areas until they’re turned on. 

Maybe even start with a simple head massage, touching the least sexual zone before you go in for their body. It’ll relax them, and it will surely feel amazing. Take your time, exploring their body and showing them you appreciate every part of it.  

If you’re unsure how they feel from their breathing and body language, always ask them and communicate about any discomfort they might have.  

Step 4: Give Them the Happy Ending of Their Dreams 

When your partner is turned on and squirming under your hands, it’s time to move on to the most sensitive parts of their body — penis, vagina, and breasts, nipples. If your partner has breasts, you can start the happy ending by focusing on their breasts first and giving them a full breast massage.

If your partner doesn’t have breasts, start by playing around with their nipples. Make circles around them, coming in closer with each circle. Then, you can pinch their nipples with your index finger and a thumb and roll them back and forth. Make sure your hands and their body are oiled up as it will feel 10x better. 

When you move down to their genitalia, depending on whether they have a vagina or a penis, you’ll want to massage them in a few different ways. 

For partners with the vagina, focus on the clit at first. Circle it with your fingers, then try tapping gently. As you’re doing it, ask them how it feels and whether they like it. Don’t just stop there, though. While one hand works their clit, slip a finger or a few inside them and find their G-spot. 

Blended stimulation of the clit and the G-spot will deliver them the most mind-blowing blended orgasms. And if you want to be naughty, try orgasm control to make their orgasms even more intense.

For a partner with a penis, you’ll want to focus on stroking their penis. Instead of only stroking it up and down, grip it with both your hands and twist your hands to change up the sensations. You can rub the very tip of their penis or use your mouth to lick it while your hands move up and down their shaft. 

Don’t abandon their balls, though. Make sure you spend some time massaging their balls but be careful not to squeeze too hard as it might be too painful. Unless your partner asks for it, of course. If your partner is comfortable, slip a finger inside their anus and massage their prostate at the same time as you’re playing with their penis. 

Step 5: Don’t Forget the Aftercare

Don’t forget the aftercare once your partner is satisfied with their happy ending. While it’s something that’s most common after BDSM activities, it’s also important for vanilla sex. First, help your partner clean up, maybe even take a shower together to clean off all the oil. Then, kiss them, cuddle with them and spend some time reflecting on the experience. Ask what they liked the most, how they felt, and what else they’d like to try. 

The chances are that you’ll be turned on after their happy ending massage is over. You can either help yourself while your partner is watching, which can be a very intimate and sexy experience. Or, they can help you orgasm with their mouth and fingers, ending the night with both of you receiving your happy endings.